Here come the holidays. The commercials have started, promoting all the latest gadgets and toys to catch a child's attention. Our mailbox has been overflowing with catalogs. Emails average 60-80 ads every day. Every child's Christmas wish list gets longer as the advertising becomes a daily reminder of what they want.
How do we teach our children to be thankful for what they have? Not just the material things, but the love, safety and security of a family that cares for them. It can be tough. What I read and know seems to point to adults being sure to set the example. Not using the phrase "I want" too often and bringing to a child's attention those things they already have that you want them to be thankful for: loving family, security of a place to live, good food, happiness.
For the youngest child, using praise and positive attention whenever possible. Good grades? Great behavior? Think rewards that cost nothing: an extra bedtime story, a walk with mom or dad, sitting and playing their favorite game. Make them aware of children who have needs for basic necessities. Could they clean out their toy box and donate a toy they no longer play with? Help you deliver a box of canned goods to the food bank? Are there clothes in their closet that they've outgrown that could be donated?
The middle child can appreciate the television being turned off during the week and their family playing a game together. Take turns reading a favorite book out loud. Look ahead to planning a family vacation: where to go, when, what can we do there? The tween years brings awareness of those around them. Volunteer together at church, for a non-profit, at the library. Lead by example.
The oldest child can be expected to show gratitude. When receiving a gift, a spoken or written "thank you" should be required. Appreciation is a must. Receive a new sweater? Give away one that's currently in your closet. Teens who are approaching adulthood will have a sense of gratitude and be happier knowing that they have something special. Or that someone in their life loves and appreciates them enough to give them a gift, no matter how small.
Children notice everything, hear it in our voice when the thanks are sincere. Take time, not only at Thanksgiving but year round, to talk about what you are thankful for. Encourage your child to notice those things that make them happy that don't come from a store. Being thankful is a trait you want your children to carry long into their adult lives. Take every opportunity to demonstrate gratitude and pay it forward.
